Posts tagged Masculinity
Empathy For Those Drawn to the Manosphere

Yesterday, two things happened that made me empathize with boys and men who are drawn to the manosphere.

The first was that I had a friend – who I’ll refer by the pseudonym Hayden, for his privacy – disclose an instance of sexual harassment that happened to him in a place where he normally feels very safe.

The second was that a staff member at a residential therapy program for children who have been sexually abused told me that they have had multiple boys come through their program who idolize manosphere influencers like Andrew Tate.

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What Boys Could Be (Not Just What They Shouldn't)

Last week I was listening to The New York Times’ Hard Fork podcast and heard something that got me thinking.

Amanda Askell works at Anthropic, the company that makes Claude. She's a philosopher, and part of her job is shaping Claude's personality. She was talking about a problem they're running into. Claude is learning about itself from the internet. And a lot of what it's reading is negative.

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How to Talk With Boys About Porn (Before the Internet Does)

Kids don’t expect you to know everything. What they’re really looking for is a safe adult—someone who listens without judgment, tells the truth without shame, and makes it okay to be curious. The conversation about porn isn’t just about screens or sex acts; it’s about the bigger things: values, relationships, respect, and safety. It’s a chance to help your son understand the difference between performance and connection, between what he sees online and what he deserves in real life.

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What Netflix’ Adolescence Can Teach Us About How We See Boys

While Adolescence is telling a devastating story, it is also telling a limited one. We see adults acting professionally and adults falling apart, but this show doesn’t show us what curious and compassionate adults look like in the face of boys’ pain and harm. We see angry boys and hurt boys, boys carrying fear and boys bluffing with bravado, but we don’t see the thoughtful, clear-eyed and gentle masculinity that is already being championed by boys who will become the next generation of men.

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Research Report: What We’ve Learned About the Online Lives of Boys Who Are Embracing Positive Masculinity

As part of our ongoing mission to support boys’ well-being, my colleagues and I decided to take on a research project designed to better understand their feelings, stresses and needs. What we uncovered was a surprising distance between their beliefs and attitudes about toxic and positive masculinity, and their lived experiences—particularly online.

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6 Things Educators Should Know About Positive Masculinity

It’s not for no reason that we dedicate ourselves to the next generation of men—and we don’t take the educators in their lives for granted. You are their champions, their stewards and their witness.

For every time I’m invited to be part of a professional development opportunity, for every time that Next Gen Men’s resources are downloaded and used in schools, and for each and every thing that you, who are reading this, do to engage boys in the movement for gender justice, thank you.

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